FOR MY MONEY STRUGGLERS, BIG SPENDERS & SHOPAHOLICS.
THE SELF BIZ PROJECT - The Road You Dare Travel Down.
It’s funny because from the ages of 18-25 I swear that’s where most of my money 💰 went! Shopping was a weekly occurrence, knew ALL the places, excitement levels raging, buying not just clothes, pretty things too, anything really, I liked spending.
For the most part, the intent back then behind it was...
👉🏾 ‘Looking good’ AKA to fit the part
👉🏾 ‘Feeling good’ AKA to make myself feel better
👉🏾 ‘Retail therapy’ AKA not dealing with my shit
👉🏾 ‘New outfit/item syndrome’ AKA can’t be seen in the same outfit (even when I didn’t have the $$$ to buy a new one!) or AKA it’s nicer than the one I already have!
TIME TO PULL YOUR HEAD OUT OF THE SAND?
Gee, this title opens up a can of worms, and to be honest I paused for a moment to ask myself if I’m cool to go down this road, so many topics, perceptions, opinions.
But the next thought was exactly this; fuck it! Why not?!
Every time I talk about what I am going through behind closed doors to other entrepreneurs, more than 99.9% of them say they have or are experiencing the same thing in a different experience, or better yet they feel instant relief knowing they’re not alone!
FOREVER PLEASING OTHERS.
Aka 'Own Your Sh*zz' woman!!!
The longer you put your head in the sand,
The longer you sit in denial about your ways up until now of operating,
The longer you sweep it under the carpet...
👉🏾 The MORE sh*zz you are SUPPRESSING that you know needs to go!
👉🏾 The MORE GUILT you invite in to feel around not taking stock of current reality!
"I'M WAITING UNTIL..." Is This You?
Aren’t you sick and tired of pleasing everyone else by now?
I mean let’s face it, no matter how driven and determined you are and no matter how much you aim to put yourself and your needs first - you somehow find yourself still not doing them, not having the time for them or simply no motivation to do them at all...
Yet you seem to have ALL the time in the world for everyone else.
How is this one of the hardest things to do?! It just make sense does it!
PEOPLE WILL JUDGE YOU ALWAYS.
Or will you?!
One of the most common set of words I hear “I want to wait until... (insert whatever you’re waiting for)”.
Aka ‘waiting until you’re ready’
Aka ‘waiting until the timings right’
Aka ‘waiting until xyz is over / finished’
Aka ‘waiting until... until... until...’
Reality is you may very well be waiting forever.
No matter what you do, how you are, how you use to be, the choices you make, the choices you don't make... People will always judge you.
It’s standard alright. It’s human nature.
1/3 of course will forever love you and all that you do, 1/3 will not really give two sh*ts - THEN you're always going to have the ones that don't like you so much, don't agree with ANYTHING you do and you rub them up the wrong way on a daily basis.
TAKE A LOOK IN THE MIRROR FIRST.
I sit here thinking to myself... 'if only we trusted ourselves in each and every situation to go for it and no matter the outcome we would work it out - just how different our lives could be'. And I don't mean just 'go for it' - I mean whole heartedly, focused and committed with the attitude of 'you CAN do this!'.
We are always striving for the answer, we are always striving to get it right the first time, to make it happen quickly, to not f*ck up, to avoid the embarrassment that we still haven't mastered it yet...
IF NOT NOW, WHEN?
The ONE THING that has the capabilities of achieving anything is YOU.
Your MIND is the catapult to this.
If you are NOT willing to work on you, take a look at you, change the way you do things...
To the point and simply - you don't deserve your results!
You don't deserve the very one thing you long for.
You keep doing the same sh*t day in day out and expecting a different result... Na-ah. Not how it works.
DROP THE STRESS & DROP THE FAT.
I can think of more than enough times where I’ve thought of doing something, something I had the urge multiple times to do, something I felt I needed, something I knew would help me... and not done it.
I’ve kept not doing it until i literally have had enough or I’ve been left no other choice because I got to the point I was desperate.
Can you relate?
"I AM..." STATEMENTS.
You see BODY change and a 9.7kg drop in what you think is in fat/weight… What you don’t see is INTERNAL change.
Stop stressing, shut your mind off, up your supplements, train more, eat less, do some meditation, keep going, stop being a sook, woman up! Sounds simple logically. If you're an Alpha female - this is definitely more like the train of thought we have when we're not getting the body results we want or no matter what we do - our body just won't change...
DARE TO DATE.
"I am always busy" - well yeah you always going to be!
"I am fat" - well yes you are! And if you're not yet and saying it - you probably will be sooner or later!
"I am so tired all the time" - well if it's always now, it will probably always be forever!
"I AM..." statements are so POWERFUL - we just don't realise we are saying them a lot of the time!
DO WHATS BEST FOR YOU EVEN WHEN ITS NOT THE BEST FOR OTHERS.
Too often do I have convo's with women that reel off statements such as 'all the good men are gone' 'they didn't do this/do that (text you, call you, say something, do something etc' and then leading up to the date fears, a need to control how it plays out and the closed minded box mentality of what they 'should' be like...
LESS IS MORE.
Just because you say you can, or will, do something does NOT mean that you absolutely MUST.
And before you go there with commitment, staying true to your word, integrity and the rest of it.
Sometimes things don't go to plan.
TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE.
It's so easy to get caught up in the day to day hustle, striving to reach goals and to keep pushing, and pushing, and pushinggggggggg AND forgetting to STOP.
Not to mention when you've spent a large part of your working life with coaches, mentors and guidance from those encouraging this way of business/body/life, it's hard not to believe that it's the ONLY way.
GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY.
What will it take for YOU to take the first step,
What will it take for YOU to step outside your comfort zone to change,
What will it take for YOU to realize if you want something you MUST do something different,
What will it take for YOU to give yourself the very things you say you want?
A lot of the time all I hear is excuses, the reasons why you CANT have it/do it/be it...
I'll be frank. It's CRAP.
COMMITMENT VS. FEAR.
I LOVE nothing more than giving others the incredible feeling of feeling good about themselves.
I give them my exact thought that popped into my mind and tell them straight up.
If I think it or feel it, I speak it.
It's extremely interesting just how little people do well at receiving them... I mean all it takes is a thank you right.
I'LL START WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT. Hmmm...
These two gems can go hand in hand together or they can create a war.
So many people are afraid of COMMITMENT, I've been one to say it to. BUT really let's think about it for a minute...
By committing to something, you're choosing to make your promise a reality. You put your hand up and say 'fuck yeah I'm in!' and you do exactly that - you go all in.
WITH HIGHS, COME LOWS.
Who’s been thinking…
“I’ll just wait for the right time”
“When I finish this… I’ll start that”
“If I just do this, then I’ll do that”
“I’ll start on date xyz”
LISTEN TO WHAT YOUR BODY IS TELLING YOU.
You are human - and these highs and lows are called life.
I've being chatting a lot lately to people who seem to be going through some ups and downs, downs more than ups actually.
Just got off a call with one of my beautiful women from my
4 Week Mindset Management Program and I am feeling so god damn excited for her!!!
I've been the person to point the finger in a relationship, I almost always pointed the finger at him BEFORE I checked in with me. "It was him, always him - not me."